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Thursday, September 23, 2010

She's sick.

I met her in the Fall of 1999. I hadn't set eyes on her until I showed up with my moving van in the Southie alleyway. The house where we would become roommates. A mutual friend put us in touch as I needed a place to stay and she needed a help on the rent.

We didn't actually live well together. Sure, we were cordial and hung out a bit, but she wasn't more than a room mate. I'm kind of that way with girls, to be honest. It takes me a long time to let someone "in."

The next year I got engaged and my then fiance lived just 8 blocks away, so I moved out. This is when her and I became close friends. We exercised together, commuted to work together, met for happy hours, had sleep overs. She worked her way "in" and we've never looked back.

She is my son's Godmother. She is my husband's confidante in all things "WTF is up with my wife?" She is my girl. She holds my secrets and my heart.

And she is sick.

Yesterday, my girl found out her biopsy results. She has cancer. The Big C. It's in her breast and her lymph nodes. This is all she knows. She's scheduled to see the oncologist tomorrow and on Saturday, Team A will get together with her for her self proclaimed "pity-party." We're going to figure out where to go from here.

I'm trying very very hard to not make this about me. But I'm scared. And I'm pissed. I'm fucking irate. I've cried a lot of tears and I'm sure more will be shed.

But on Saturday and every day that I'm with her, I will be her strength, no matter what it takes. Hell, if it comes to it, and she's in throes of chemo and she loses her hair, I'll shave my head with her. I'm in. I'm so in and will fight with her.

She's my girl.

And she's sick.

Labels: FTC, headcase

35 Comments:

Jennerific said...: Sad news. I'm so sorry :(
It's amazing what doctors are capable of these days. She will be in my prayers for a quick recovery.
xo
Jennerific; 9/23/10, 10:04 AM
Unknown said...: *hugs*

I'm really sorry to hear of your friend's sad news. She is blessed to have such a good friend in you; you will be able to help her possibly more than even her team of doctors.

I hope her prognosis turns out as good as one can hope from here!; 9/23/10, 10:05 AM
Ashley said...: You're an amazing friend. If you need someone to bitch to.. I'm your girl.; 9/23/10, 10:06 AM
Moooooog35 said...: You are an amazing person and she's lucky to have you with her through this.; 9/23/10, 10:12 AM
tulpen said...: It can be about you. Of course it can. 'Cause she's your girl.

Getting that hot poker ready.; 9/23/10, 10:23 AM
Bethany said...: This gave me goosebumps. You and your friend are in my thoughts!; 9/23/10, 11:11 AM
adrienzgirl said...: Any friend who will shave her head to support her bestie in chemo is AMAZING! WOW! Sending prayers and strength your way!; 9/23/10, 11:41 AM
Anonymous said...: Damn. A friend of mine was also diagnosed recently. Cancer needs to be flipped off all day, every day.

I guess the silver lining is what you said:
"I'll shave my head with her. I'm in. I'm so in and will fight with her."

I've never seen more care and compassion than when friends are diagnosed. If that was the norm, this world would be a better place.; 9/23/10, 12:21 PM
annie said...: I'm so sorry for you both! I'm new here but can I still give a bit of advice (because I'm there myself) instead of telling her to stay positive, give her a safe place not to be. The part where we make everyone around feel better is more exhausting than the illness itself. Take good care of each other!; 9/23/10, 12:36 PM
Tiffany said...: God, love--I'm so very sorry.; 9/23/10, 1:27 PM
Frugal Vicki said...: Such big hugs for you.
If you want some strength, you email me. You be there for here and if you want I will be there for you.

And a whole lot of prayers for you.; 9/23/10, 1:35 PM
Natalie said...: I know what you are about to go through. It does suck and you do need to be her strength. But don't be afraid to cry and let her know how you feel. You won't be able to hide it from her, and she'll be pissed if you try. Just be there for her. And love her like you do.; 9/23/10, 1:56 PM
WTH am I Doing? said...: Ugh. That's really horrible. Hopefully it's something the doctors can work with & it'll be a great story of giving cancer the finger & going on with life. Good luck...to both of you.; 9/23/10, 2:14 PM
Megan said...: I'm so, so sorry, for you and for your friend. I'm sending tons of good vibes her way.

She is lucky to have a friend like you.; 9/23/10, 2:29 PM
Chana@ Mamma Town said...: This is beyond horrible. And I'm so sorry. Really don't have much more to say other than Cancer is so f-ing lame. I will pray for a recovery for your dear friend!; 9/23/10, 3:19 PM
Anonymous said...: @trinalikeswine Praying for you and your beautiful friend....I teared up reading this...You will be her rock...Love to both of you...; 9/23/10, 6:22 PM
Leigh said...: OK, you just made ME cry. You both are lucky to have each other as such good friends. Keeping her in my prayers. Love you.; 9/23/10, 8:11 PM
Jen said...: Hugs to you. I hope she gets better.; 9/23/10, 8:57 PM
JenJen said...: hi dammit.

it's me. And I love you. You are such a good friend to her.

Cancer is a rotten bastard. I'm so mad too.

xo YIB; 9/23/10, 9:26 PM
Anonymous said...: That sucks. You're an awesome friend, and she's lucky to be able to count on you.

Please keep us updated.

-DanovSteel; 9/23/10, 9:42 PM
Making It Work Mom said...: Oh. I am sooo sorry. Life sucks sometimes. She will need you. Be her strength and then let your husband be your strength. You will all need to lean on each other.
I wish you all well.; 9/23/10, 10:52 PM
Momma Ski said...: Hugs.; 9/23/10, 10:52 PM
Kim Moore said...: This cancer is going to have to take it up the tail pipe from Team A.

Love and prayers for both of you.; 9/23/10, 11:05 PM
Bag Lady said...: I love you, lady.; 9/24/10, 12:35 AM
Jenni Chiu @MommyNaniBooboo said...: Cancer has claimed too many of my family.
You are an amazing friend.
I'm sending you and your pal all the hugs ,and ass kicking I've got.; 9/24/10, 1:17 AM
Tayarra said...: Girl,this sucks and there isn't much else to say, but she's got you. If she is anything like you, the two of you could kick the crap out of that cancer in a jiffy either that or scare the hell out of it!!! Wishing you both the best especially your girl!; 9/24/10, 8:37 AM
KLZ said...: I feel your rage. This whole "life's not fair" thing is real bullshit sometimes.; 9/24/10, 10:45 AM
Anonymous said...: I'm terribly sorry to hear about your friend. Cancer is a mo fo. My father in law has bone cancer and he's been trying to kick it's ass for over 7 years. Every day he is here is a victory. My 6 year old son will be devestated to lose Grandpa...so we all fight with him. I lost my dad to lung cancer at age 10, so I really, really, really want to punch cancer in the nuts.
Science is making great strides in this field and I am hopeful for your friend's recovery. She is going to need you for sure.; 9/24/10, 11:40 AM
Not Just Another Jennifer said...: Great post. That sucks. As a ray of hope, a friend of mine had the same diagnosis when she was 35. She had to have a mastectomy and all of her lymph nodes removed on one side. The prognosis was not good. She's been in remission for three years!!! Hang in there. (BTW, Stumbled you from Liz's BlogFrog); 9/24/10, 11:42 AM
Tracie Nall said...: She is blessed to have you holding her hand and supporting her through this.

Cancer sucks. There is no other way to put it.; 9/24/10, 2:39 PM
Anonymous said...: I said it before but I'll say it again: your friend is so, so lucky to have you. In fact, should I ever go through a massive, traumatic life-threatening event, I'm gonna call you.

You both have a hard road ahead of you, but it's true what they say: a positive outlook is just as crucial as medicine.; 9/24/10, 5:57 PM
Liz said...: She's your girl, and you love her. Of course you're angry and irate. You're pissed and you should be. But that anger will make you all fight that much more.; 9/24/10, 8:44 PM
Ed said...: This comment has been removed by the author.; 9/26/10, 1:15 PM
Anonymous said...: I'm so sorry to hear this. You're a great friend.; 9/26/10, 1:17 PM
Maureen @TatterScoops said...: My heart breaks but you are an amazing friend and I know God will use you well to help her fighting this ugly disease. Prayers are being lifted for your best friend, her family and her friends. May you all be strong.; 9/27/10, 8:08 PM

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Thursday, September 23, 2010

She's sick.

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