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Monday, November 1, 2010


My birthday was Friday, October 29th.  I planned the day off to pamper myself, I attended the kindy Pumpkin Palooza and then stopped at home before getting the boys and heading out to see my friend A for dinner. 


When I was home inbetween errands, I received an e-mail stating that some friends got me a birthday gift, but it wasn't delivered, and to check the attached e-mail address to see the present.


I was puzzled at first, reading loving wishes and then seeing all of these confirmations of donations.  To the National Breast Cancer Foundation, Inc. And then I started to cry. So hard I couldn't see straight. And it was the ugly cry, people.


I haven't really found the right words, other than to say I'm humbled. And Thank You. 


I've chosen to write about my friend A and her breast cancer, not to seek money or recognition, but because I don't know what else to do.


I can't cure her.


I'm not sick.


But I can write and share my feelings.


Your support has been unbelievable.  I won't name everyone who donated (you know who you are, and collectively sent almost $900 to the foundation), but I also wanted to thank those of you who have given constant encouragement.  The e-mails and texts to check in on how things are going.  Asking not only about A, but also about me. Honest to goodness support that I never would have imagined.


When I saw A for dinner that night, I showed her the donation confirmations.  She was overwhelmed with gratitude.  She said "I'm uncomfortably overwhelmed, but in a 'good' uncomfortable way."   Especially at this sentiment from one of the birthday organizers:  "I know the best present we can give you right now is to honor A and help save other best friend's out there from the same fate."  Yah. Like I said, Ugly Cry.


The attached picture is of a little ceramic sign A gave me for my birthday.  It says "Good friends are like stars – the darker the night the brighter they shine." 


I'm trying to be her star.


And you all are mine.

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Blogger One Crafty Mother said...

OH, my. What a beautiful, beautiful gift. It speaks so much to the power of friendship, both the ones you have and the kind of friend you are, too.


11/1/10, 10:41 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

That's so beautiful! Happy Birthday, too ... mine was also on Friday. It's nice that you were able to celebrate with such gracious friends.

11/1/10, 11:06 AM  
Blogger Just Another Mom of 2 said...

Hope your birthday was amazing girl!

11/1/10, 12:30 PM  
Blogger Sara said...

: )

11/1/10, 12:45 PM  
Blogger tulpen said...

Glad you had a good reason to ugly cry.

11/1/10, 12:53 PM  
Blogger Kim said...

Now this post made me tear up! So glad you had a good birthday and honored A. She definately deserves, as do you. And your friendship should be honored. Celebrate!

11/1/10, 1:10 PM  
Blogger Mommy NaniBooboo said...

So glad.
Yay for the ugly cry... and again, fuck cancer.

11/1/10, 2:31 PM  
Blogger The Blogging Goddess said...

You have the nicest friends. That is a wonderful gift.

11/1/10, 3:08 PM  
Blogger Kelley said...

That honestly gave me the chills. I am so sorry your friend is going through such a difficult battle but how blessed she is to have you walking besider her through it!

11/1/10, 3:43 PM  
Blogger Sonora said...

Happy Birthday! Wow, this post gave me goosebumps. What wonderful friends you have and you are and what a great gift. I think friendship and support is such an amazing gift to give someone who is struggling. My prayers are with you and your friend.

11/1/10, 3:47 PM  
Blogger KLZ said...

Stop making me cry! No fair!

11/1/10, 5:06 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

Ah, I just want to hug you!

11/1/10, 5:40 PM  
Blogger Tarja said...

Good God, MommaKiss, you really know how to bring on the emotion! Beautiful post and an even lovlier gift. Sometimes the generosity of people surprises and overwhelms me. And the ugly cry? Sometimes it just can't be helped.

11/1/10, 6:12 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

Totally made me cry. My aunt just started her battle with this ugly disease. The way women can support each other in our times of need is an amazing thing.

11/1/10, 6:48 PM  
Anonymous annie said...

Happy Birthday!! I've said it before, and i'll say it again - she's lucky to have you in her life!

11/1/10, 7:14 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

This is so awesome!

11/1/10, 9:09 PM  
Anonymous Erin I'm Gonna Kill Him said...

You are a great friend. I don't think my donation went thru since I attempted it on my phone since we were traveling all week. The ladies who got it together though were so excited to do something for you

11/1/10, 10:00 PM  
Blogger Mo 'Betta said...

This gave me goose bumps! How AWESOME!! I know how my family felt with the outpouring of support when my dad got sick and a few weeks ago when my sister and I participated in a walk for leukemia. I had donations from people I had never actually met, just through either my blog or online via cancer boards etc, or from people that I never considered myself to be "close" too. It is humbling. I wish your friend the best of luck in dealing with the "c" word.

11/1/10, 11:04 PM  
Blogger Bag Lady said...

Love ya lady.

11/2/10, 1:40 AM  
Blogger Gigi said...

I'm glad your birthday was perfectly ugly. In a good way :) love you!

11/2/10, 7:14 AM  
Blogger Liz said...

Awww! This gave me chills! And that's such a perfect, awesome quote!

11/2/10, 9:05 AM  
Blogger Lori @ In Pursuit of Martha Points said...

It was an easy thing to do.

Cause you're just that damned awesome.

11/2/10, 10:16 AM  
Blogger n8rlvr said...

It is amazing & heartwarming when friends bust out with The Awesomeness. :O)

11/2/10, 11:15 AM  
Blogger Elizabeth-Flourish in Progress said...

What an amazing thing to do.

Happy belated Birthday!!!

New to your blog, looking forward to reading more. =)

11/2/10, 12:26 PM  
Anonymous Megan (Best of Fates) said...

Happy Birthday!

(Yes, I'm late. As I was in responding to the email. It's somewhat a trend in my life.)

I'm so glad you loved your present - and I'm glad A liked it too.

11/2/10, 1:17 PM  
Blogger Poppy said...

You're kind of universally likeable. A is lucky to have you and you her.

11/2/10, 1:35 PM  
Blogger The Empress said...


Good people make the world go round.

You are a blessing to your friend.

11/2/10, 1:50 PM  
Anonymous Kimberly said...

You are truly an amazing friend. You are BOTH lucky to have each other. Your strength will help her more than you know.
Continued thoughts and prayers

11/2/10, 2:30 PM  
Blogger Red Shoes said...

What a wonderful circle of friends... you are all lucky!!


11/2/10, 6:00 PM  
Blogger Angie said...

What a wonderful gift!

Happy belated birthday!

11/2/10, 7:45 PM  
Blogger JennyMac said...

Love this post and your pure emotion. Happy Belated.

PS: Cancer can suck it.

11/2/10, 7:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is a great birthday present. Hope you had a wonderful celebration day.

11/2/10, 8:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So glad the gift made your day.

I think about you and A and your amazing friendship almost daily. I love the quote about the stars in the night sky. It makes me thankful for all the wonderful people in my life.

Happy birthday lovely (but with an ugly cry) girl.

11/3/10, 1:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Stop posting these type of posts - people might get the wrong idea and think that you are mushy.

Go Team A!

11/3/10, 1:09 PM  
Blogger Joann Mannix said...

First, Happy Belated Birthday.

Secondly, I'm sending prayers and blessings to your dear friend. I'm so sorry. A good friend of mine recently discovered a lump which was diagnosed as Stage 4 breast cancer and it has metastasized. She has 3 children, one of them is only 4.

Your friends sound like the best kind of friends to have.

Ugly cries are good.

11/3/10, 1:32 PM  
Blogger Mamarazzi said...

beautiful!! truly.

thank you for stopping by my blog. i always try to do my best to follow people who comment on my posts back to their blogs and leave a little love!!

11/4/10, 4:13 AM  
Blogger Bird Shit and Baby Caca said...

That is one of the sweetest, most thoughtful things I have ever heard! You have such amazing friends!!!

11/4/10, 12:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love that you are being her star. Thats just awesome. =)

Happy Bday! (yea, I know, kinda late!) lol

11/4/10, 12:32 PM  
Blogger Sandra said...

You are trying to be her star and easily succeeding.
PS: Ugly cry is bad for your skin. Stop it!

11/4/10, 9:00 PM  

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